Why people fail in life

why people fail to recognize their own incompetence and why people fail
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Published Date:03-07-2017
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Why People Fail This booklet is dedicated to those who arrive here ready to ask themselves the hard questions, (“Why haven’t I succeeded yet?”), ready to recognize themselves in here, ready to reinvent themselves in order to succeed. 2 Why People Fail Table of Contents Preamble 4 1. The Blame Caster 6 2. The Cynic 7 3. Get Rich Quick 9 4. The Entitled 12 5. The Envious 14 6. The IQ-Challenged 15 7. The Liar/Cheater 17 8. The Nasty Boy Black Clouds 18 9. The Nitpicker 20 10. The Quitter 21 11. The RTFMer 23 12. The Smarter-than-Thou 25 13. Three Patterns of Failure 27 14. The Finale 30 3Why People Fail Preamble What is the difference between those who succeed and those who fail? As Founder of SiteSell.com, I have seen hundreds of thousands of small business people use SBI’s process and tools. Posts in the SBI Forums (the best “helped and be helped” community on the Net – click here to read sample posts), SiteSell Facebook (http://facebook.sitesell.com/) and e-mail from them later reveal results that range from wild success to failure to even get started Naturally, many more succeed than fail or we would not be in business, growing rapidly online since 1997. But why the two results? What magic attribute separates the winners? I have seen ordinary-IQ folks succeed beyond belief. And I’ve seen bright people fail miserably. So the difference is not intelligence. I’ve seen a few “lucky stiffs” come up with the right idea at the right place at the right time don’t count on duplicating “lightning in a bottle.” I’ve also seen people try harder than is humanly possible... and fall flat on their faces. So the difference is not “trying hard,” although, that certainly helps to better the success equation, when combined with the refusal to give up, and the ability to learn from failure. The bottom line? There is no single path to success. But there are clear failure habits that almost guarantee failure. When I look at folks who win online, it’s obvious that they do not possess those failure habits/traits... http://case-studies.sitesell.com/ And that is where this book was born. After all... Success is merely the absence of failure. 4Why People Fail This booklet, with the best intentions and a rather brutal but somewhat tongue- in-cheek (to take the sting out) approach, points out certain personality types. If you’ve dealt with human beings for more than a few years, you’ll likely recognize them. But recognizing them is not important. The question is this... If you have not yet succeeded at business, will you recognize yourself? Will you conclude that you possess one or more of these failure-inducing faults? This little book challenges you to take a good look at yourself. Of course... A deep self-examination can be a difficult, painful thing to do you may not like what you see. If you are not prepared to do that, then you do, in fact, fit one of the profiles in this book. Either way, you take the first step towards success... or you stop the chase and become happier through other pursuits. Based on all the successful people I have witnessed, I can confidently state that the odds of success drop quickly if you possess one or more of the failure patterns outlined herein. So, how to succeed? The best simple answer that I can give is... Eliminate failure. Ready? Let’s take a quick look at those who are almost destined to fail. If you have yet to succeed, ask yourself, “Is this me?” Ask your spouse. Ask your friends. Ask your mentor, your spiritual advisor. No, don’t ask. Insist... insist upon an honest answer. If that response comes back “yes,” well... you know what to do. Open your mind your future depends on it. 5Why People Fail 1. The Blame Caster This person always finds something or someone to blame, never himself. Pattern? People stop taking this person seriously. They avoid him altogether once they have been blamed. Bosses grow frustrated. Complaint desks and support staffs stop answering his complaints. Life becomes rather lonely, which only increases this person’s anger. Quote? “Who me?” ... “Can’t anyone around here do anything right?” Motto? Blame everything on someone or something else nothing is ever my fault. If it does really seem to be my fault, I wriggle harder. And if it really is my fault, the best defense is a good offense. I go ballistic. Bottom line? The world is an imperfect place. Yet, somehow, decade after decade, it moves forward. Work with imperfection. When things go wrong, don’t seek fault. Fix it. In any event, you are not fooling anyone, not for long. Accept blame when it’s yours and others will look up to you. Remember... the goal is to keep moving ahead, not figure out who messed up. 6Why People Fail 2. The Cynic This person trusts no one, barely even himself. Everything is a “line.” Pattern? That baker’s smile? “Manipulator” People being nice? “They want something from me.”” What about the rest of the world? “Everyone has an ulterior motive.” This person simply believes everyone does something for a covert, manipulative reason. It’s a sad life to lead. Quote? “Get away from me with that marketing line... I don’t believe a thing anyone says. It’s all B.S.” Motto? Believe nothing and trust no one. ... Luckily, I can detect B.S. a mile away. Bottom line? Suspicious of all, he does manage to weed out the Get Rich Quick nonsense. That is the good news. Unfortunately... ... when a truly great opportunity comes along... 7Why People Fail ... he shoots that one down in flames, too. If you recognize yourself in here, the solution is not difficult. Recognize that your sense of judgment has simply been turned off because it’s far easier to reject everything. Maybe you really have been hurt once or twice in the past. But do not allow that to shut the world out. Instead... Do your due diligence. Research properly. You will, once again, find your way. If you make a mistake, don’t back-track. Learn and try again. 8Why People Fail 3. Get Rich Quick This person actually believes that companies would SELL Get Rich Quick formulas... that work. Hello? Would YOU sell a “money machine”? Pattern? Justify the failure. Find the next one. ... Repeat until out of money. Quote? “But the Web site said...” ... “What do you mean it takes work to build a business?” Motto? I just know there’s someone out there who has invented a Free Money button. All I have to do is find it, buy it, click it, and watch the dollars come pouring in. But if you don’t have that... A cash cow will do, too... ... as long as I don’t have to do any work... like feeding it. Bottom line? 9Why People Fail Companies that sell Get Rich Quick, no matter how they disguise it with clever copy, LIE There is no such thing as Santa Claus or GRQ. Here’s the SiteSell motto... ... If you are not ready to work to succeed... ... you’ll be happier in front of a different kind of monitor. SBI Expert Advisors answer questions from pre-owners of SBI. This service (question.sitesell.com) is strictly to help pre-owners figure out if SBI is right for them. Actual SBI owners answer the questions. Here’s a story from “the front lines” about Karen (or “Short-cut Sue”)… Ken, I just had to pass this story along. I just hung up from talking to a lady that SBI won’t work for. The caller started by asking me how SBI could drive traffic to her Web site. That question implies that SBI is one of those “give us 400 and we will send a million visitors to your Web site” deals. I asked her a couple more questions and sure enough, that’s what she thought we did. I took the time explain that SBI is an integrated comprehensive system of process and tools. SBI does not drive traffic to your site it provides the tools and knowledge needed for ordinary people to quickly create a Web site that the Search Engines will rank highly, thereby attracting quality traffic to their site. She said her current site has 20 pages on it and it doesn’t get any traffic. When I asked her about the 20 pages, it turns out that it is a 1-page sales letter but “20 pages long.” The caller wanted to know how SBI would get traffic to her site. I told her about how the Search Engines work and how SBI builds pages and sites focused on keywords to get the best possible results. 10Why People Fail She then said “I used Brainstorm It” on my keywords and none of them were any good. My site doesn’t get any traffic and it doesn’t show up in the Search Engines.” That was my first clue that she already owned SBI She had been evasive about her name and Web site before, but sometimes people just don’t want to give a lot of info up- front so I had continued with her up until this point. I said “You mean you already own SBI and you need help with getting your site working right?” She said “Yes - I built my site with SBI and it doesn’t get any traffic.” Since she had already told me it was a 1-page sales-letter site, I knew she had skipped reading the Action Guide (or watching the videos) so I just had to ask her one more question before referring her to support.... “Did you read the Action Guide?” Her answer was “No I have WAY TOO MUCH to do already and I’m not going to waste my time reading an ebook. It’s just like every other Web site building tool - any idiot can figure out how to use it - you don’t have to waste your time reading instructions you just put your page together and click on build it.” I suggested that it would be a good idea to at least watch the video guide but she was way too busy to do even that. I told her how to contact tech-support and said goodbye. Look for a refund request for a customer named “Karen” and a site on “nutrition products.” I wouldn’t bother with a follow up call though she’s probably too busy. 11Why People Fail 4. The Entitled This person believes that the world owes her a living. Pattern? Widely perceived as a whiner. Expects others to do it for her. She expects a high bonus. ... She expects that the world, no matter what the situation, will take care of it. On the Net, the most obvious example is the person... ... who expects everything to be FREE Oh, and not only free. Everything has to be... ... now From instant success, to free, round-the-clock, telephone consulting.... this type of person wants it free. And she wants it now. Quote? “What, I have to do the research and make the important decisions for my business? Can’t you do that for me?” “Of course, I expect 40,000 worth of consulting for your 300 product. And what’s your home number, in case I need to reach you at midnight?” Motto? Socialism? What a wonderful idea Also... 12Why People Fail ... Here Genie, Genie, Genie. Bottom line? The world does not owe anyone a living. We all make our own way. We all look after ourselves. But successful people do it by recognizing the needs of others. Take us, for example, here at SiteSell. We fire those who are not serious about succeeding. By helping the motivated to succeed in building thriving, profitable businesses, we succeed in so many ways, too. Here are some examples of the “non-entitled”... those who simply went out and “did it”... http://case-studies.sitesell.com/ Count on people to look after themselves, first. But also count on the fact that good business people look for WIN-WIN situations. Do that and you can defeat the failure barrier called “entitlement.” It’s a fatal flaw. Hard to diagnose. But once you see it in yourself, you can indeed start to move forward. How?... WIN-WIN. But, if you continue to seek WIN (for you) relationships, you’re doomed. 13Why People Fail 5. The Envious This person is awestruck-jealous by the success of others. Pattern? They count the other’s money before their own, in a deal. They can’t focus on what they should be doing.... ... because they are in too much of a fog to build their own success. They’re focused on what others seem to be doing. Quote? “Why not me? Anyway... ... I’ll bet he’s not as happy as he looks. Or he had to cheat someone to get there.” Motto? Sooner or later, that winner will fail... I hope. Bottom line? Envy is a wasted emotion that requires you to bring others down in order to raise your ego to an acceptable level. Acknowledge it, compartmentalize it and tuck it away. And... ... get to work building your own success. Let the success of others inspire you that it is indeed possible. 14Why People Fail 6. The IQ-Challenged These people simply don’t have the raw intelligence to succeed online. Discussion: Intelligence is not the most important predictor of success. Determination. Perseverance. Common sense. Attention to quality and customer. Give me someone with those qualities, any day. And by “IQ-challenged,” we’re not talking about people who lack certain skills, such as computer skills. If you lack the skills required to get a certain venture off the ground, you simply learn those skills. There are not many people who are simply not smart enough to succeed online. But it is important to identify. Some folks really are best qualified to be doing an offline manual trade. And there is nothing wrong with that. Raw intelligence is grossly over-rated. ... And there can be a lot more money in certain trades than chasing Net bucks. It’s only sad if you refuse to face reality not everyone was cut out to work on the Net. It’s so easy to fall for the siren call of the quick online buck. My suggestion? Realistically, assess your abilities. Is the Net right for you? One thing for sure... ... there’s no need to be a brain-iac. But... 15Why People Fail ... you do need to at least possess average intelligence. Be realistic. 16Why People Fail 7. The Liar/Cheater For this person, it’s easier to lie and cheat than make it honestly. Pattern? A long trail of bodies with knives in the back. These are the folks who sell the Get Rich Quick schemes. Quote? “It’s legal.. sort of.” And... ...“There’s a sucker born every minute.” Motto? It’s a dog-eat-dog world. Let the big dog eat. Bottom line? I have no advice for these thieves. We don’t do business with them. But learn to recognize them... ... looks can be deceiving. There is only one good solution for these low-lifes... ... 5-10 years of hard time. There are way too many of these people online, selling dreams. Don’t fall for them. 17Why People Fail 8. The Nasty Boy Black Clouds This person simply makes everyone miserable. He blows up at anything. Criticizes everyone, except himself. Pattern? People run from him. Before he phones people, he turns off his caller ID otherwise, no one ever seems to answer He’s angry. Always. Short fuse... ... He is constantly in fights. Spends a lot of time flaming in forums, and fighting with support staffs around the world. He wonders why so many people make his life so difficult. Quote? “I’m firm but fair. The world’s a vicious place, everyone’s out to screw me. Show some kindness and people will take advantage. I even see it in my so- called friends (wonder why).” Motto? I keep that chip firmly glued to my shoulder... ... Black clouds are constantly hovering over my head. Bottom line? This is a tough one to help. “I don’t need help, you idiot” 18Why People Fail See what I mean? His only hope is that he recognizes himself in the above overview. Life is so much more pleasant when you make others happy. It comes back to you... one-hundred fold. ... People just want to be around you. And that, dear reader, is a good thing. ... Be happy. It’s contagious. 19Why People Fail 9. The Nitpicker This person is “the perfectionist.” She can miss the forest of success by spending too much time on the details of the trees. Pattern? Appreciated as a great worker. But... ... It takes a toll. It takes huge hours to “be perfect.” Quote? “Almost there. Just one last revision.” Motto? I’ll prune each and every tree to perfection... ... to even within an inch of its life, if necessary. Bottom line? This person deserves to succeed, and often does. If she has her own business and bills well enough for the quality, she can do well. If she is well- managed within a company, she is invaluable. But, if taken too far, you end up exhausted. Focusing on the wrong things limits your success. You deserve far better. If you see yourself here, take a step back. Look at the big picture. Accept that not everything is perfect. Now... where would today’s efforts bring you the most results? And... Quit neatening up your desktop incessantly 20