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10 Days to More Confident Public Speaking

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10 Days to More Confident Public SpeakingAlso by The Princeton Language Institute Grammar 101 Guide to Pronunciation Roget’s 21st Century Thesaurus Also by Lenny Laskowski Dynamic Presentation Skills for the Business Professional No Sweat Presentations: The Painless Way to Successful Speaking10 Days to More Confident Public Speaking The Princeton Language Institute and Lenny Laskowski Produced by The Philip Lief Group, Inc. Copyright © 2001 by Philip Lief Group Inc. All rights reserved. Warner Books Hachette Book Group, USA 1271 Avenue of the Americas New York, NY 10020 Visit our Web site at First eBook edition: July 2006 ISBN: 0-7595-6467-1This book is dedicated to my wife, Joan; my son, Michael; and my daughter, Kelly, for their continued support and encouragement during my journey of helping others become better speakers and presenters and during the writing of this book.Acknowledgments Some very good friends and colleagues allowed me to use their material and input. Thank you: Tom Antion, Susan Berkley, Janet Esposito, Kare Anderson, Tony Jeary, Lilly Wal- ters, and Patricia Fripp.Contents Introduction xi Day 1 Getting Started: Overcoming Your Fears 1 Day 2 Create a Great Presentation 23 Day 3 Relating to Your Audience 48 Day 4 Remembering What You Have to Say 69 Day 5 Say It with Style: Body Language and Voice 100 Day 6 Language and Ethics 123 Day 7 Expect the Unexpected 143Contents x Day 8 Special Techniques 158 Day 9 Behind the Scenes: Building Confidence 169 Day 10 Ending Your Speech with a Bang 185Introduction If you poll a group of people and ask them their greatest fear, public speaking usually ranks number one. In fact, in surveys I have conducted with clients at hundreds of seminars and workshops, 67 percent find public speaking difficult. The re- maining 33 percent are comfortable with their public speak- ing skills but feel there is room for improvement. No matter which percentile you fall into, 10 Days to More Confident Pub- lic Speaking will help you assess your speaking skills and learn fast, effective strategies to become a better, more confident public speaker. Throughout my career as a public speaker, I have identified many reasons why people are not comfortable speaking in front of a group, large or small. Some people are self-conscious about their appearance or voice. Others are afraid they will be laughed at or criticized. Such fears can compromise your ef- fectiveness, preventing you from becoming a more confident public speaker. Improving your public speaking and communication skills increases your self-confidence, but studies have revealed an additional benefit: Professionals with good communication skills are promoted more often and faster within their job en- vironment. Top company executives polled said that the one essential skill they look for in an employee slated for promo- tion is the ability to effectively communicate ideas. 10 Days to More Confident Public Speaking provides you with proven, successful methods to increase your confidence as a public10 Days to More Confident Public Speaking xii speaker. As a public speaking coach and keynote speaker, I have used these tips and methods to help clients from all over the world enhance their speaking, presentation, and commu- nication skills. 10 Days to More Confident Public Speaking is divided into ten days, each one building on skills learned from prior days. Chapters are sprinkled with “Tips of the Day,” “Top Ten Lists,” “Lessons from Mom,” and “Confidence Builders” as well as practical exercises and strategies. Here is a glimpse of what you will take away with you in the course of your ten- day journey. • Day 1: We begin with tips on how to improve your public speaking skills in every area of your life, from career to personal life to social situations. Along the way you will learn a Lesson from Mom on the importance of practicing and polishing your skills. And you will learn quick tricks about ways to introduce yourself to an audience. • Day 2: The most important skill when preparing a presentation is developing speech content. In this chapter you will learn a five-step approach for devising material for your speech or presentation. Also, you will learn the proper structure of a speech—the introduction, body, and conclusion—and hints for eliminating the visual and verbal clutter in your speeches. • Day 3: This chapter focuses on relating to your audience. We begin with steps to analyze your audience and the importance of preprogram and customized surveys to tailor your presentation to meet your audience’s needs. The day also includes a Top Ten List of tips and secrets to keep your audience awake andxiii Introduction energized during your presentations. You will also learn the five types of speeches, from informative to impromptu. • Day 4: You will learn the four most common methods for remembering speech and presentation material and the pros and cons for each. In addition, you will find a resource list of Internet Web sites to help your presentation shine. Day 4 ends with how your speech or presentation location can interfere with or enhance your performance. • Day 5: The crux of Day 5 focuses on gestures and the role they play in your presentations. Also, you will learn five tips about facial expressions and why they are an important part of effective communication. The day ends with on-the-spot advice on what to do when you are asked at the last minute to give a presentation. • Day 6: This chapter focuses on the language and ethics behind speech giving, including guidelines for proper attribution of statistics, research results, and quotes. In the process, you will spend some time looking at excerpts from the top ten influential and memorable speeches in history. Also, you will learn ten ways to incorporate humor in your presentation. Day 6 takes an in-depth look at the first of the five types of speeches you learned in Day 3. • Day 7: Throughout Day 7 you will learn tips and secrets that professional speakers, trainers, and entertainers use when the unexpected happens—from room changes to equipment failure. In addition, you will learn fun icebreaker games to use at a training session or seminar. Day 7 also gives you an example of a ceremonial speech.10 Days to More Confident Public Speaking xiv • Day 8: This chapter discusses a variety of special techniques to help you develop and hone your speaking skills. Day 8 also gives an in-depth review process of videotaping yourself as a way to critique your speech before the big day. Finally, you are given a sample of an after-dinner speech. • Day 9: The focus of this chapter is how to psych yourself up for the big moment. The chapter is sprinkled with tips and strategies to show you how to become your own best coach and the importance of making a checklist. In addition, you will learn the humorous way one presenter prepares himself just before he’s introduced. Finally, you will get a glimpse of a persuasive speech and how to deliver bad news or negative results in a speech. • Day 10: This chapter shows you how to end your speech or presentation with a memorable conclusion using five surefire methods. You are also introduced to the most effective way to handle the question and answer period following your speech or presentation and how to deal with hostile questions from audience members. Finally, you are given a sample of the fifth type of speech—the impromptu. Okay, it’s time to get started. Turn to Day 1 and get your- self ready for a journey to the world of more confident public speaking.10 Days to More Confident Public SpeakingDay 1 Getting Started Overcoming Your Fears or as long as I can remember, I always think back to Fwhen I was only five years old. I would spend the day outside either playing in the dirt or building. At the end of the day I would talk my parents’ ears off (I assumed they were listening) about what I built or what I was going to build. Lit- tle did I realize that my training as an engineer—my first career—was already beginning. One day in school, somewhere around the turn of the cen- tury, my first-grade teacher, Mrs. Collins, asked the class for volunteers to speak to the class about what we loved to do. Immediately my hand shot into the air. No one else raised a hand except those who all of a sudden needed to go to the bathroom. I was excited to talk about the latest pirate ship I had just built. My talk was such a success that I was asked to share my story with other classes. Even then I was a natural public speaker—my second career—and anxious to share in- formation with an audience. Now, when people ask me how long I have been on the speaking circuit, I can honestly say since I was five. Throughout my career both as an engineer and then later10 Days to More Confident Public Speaking 2 as a public speaker trainer, I have had the opportunity to write and present papers at conferences to various professionals. Early on I learned how important it was to develop my speak- ing skills. As a professional speaker, I now coach people from all over the world on ways to improve their speaking, presen- tation, and communication skills. Regardless of your profession, you probably spent your school years training, learning, and fine-tuning your reading and writing skills. If you are like most, you spent very little time learning how to develop your public speaking skills— schools don’t typically teach these skills, unless you join the debate team. However, as you will learn shortly, most com- munications occur on a verbal basis. Each day presents oppor- tunities for informal and formal public speaking, from making a phone call at work to giving a new business presen- tation or running a meeting. It is a common misconception that certain people are born good speakers. Yes, I agree that some people have the gift of gab—I could think of a few who have too much of a gift— and seem more natural at it. But make no mistake: Becoming a confident public speaker is achieved only by the desire to become a better speaker, followed by focused effort and a lot of practice. The good news is, your payoff will come quickly, you’ll have fun along the way, and the confidence you develop will improve virtually all areas of your life. Professional speakers, myself included, never stop practic- ing and honing their speaking skills. I am a better speaker today than I was five years ago and expect to continue to im- prove. If you are like most people, you did not have a great first- time public speaking experience, and the thought of speaking in front of people scares you to death. In fact, according to the Book of Lists, public speaking is the greatest of all fears. More than 41 percent of people polled for the book named public3 Getting Started speaking as their number one fear. The fear of dying is num- ber seven on the list I guess that means people would rather die than get up in front of a group of people to speak. If you feel this way, you’re not alone. In fact, some of today’s most famous presenters have freely admitted to ner- vousness and stage fright when it comes to public speaking. You may be saying to yourself right now, There is no way I will be a good speaker. I can never learn to be like those pro- fessional speakers; speaking just comes easily to them. Most of us naturally worry about what other people think about us, and this is especially true when we are asked to speak to a group of people. Learning specific techniques to improve your public speaking can help eradicate your fear and help you succeed in your business and personal life. Confidence Builder: Public Speaking Improves Every Area of Your Life Whether you are having a casual telephone conversation, teaching a Sunday school class, having a conversation with your boss, or giving a formal presentation, you are involved in public speaking. Following are examples of how public speak- ing can positively influence your everyday life, your career, your relationships, your communication style, and much more. Let’s get started on the path to successful public speak- ing. • Build success in your professional life. Most presidents and CEOs of companies possess strong speaking skills. I work with many high-level executives in the business world, and when I ask them why they feel they need coaching to improve their speaking skills, they all indicate that they know their success and their